Five Practices For Letting Go.

When thinking of a way to describe the expression “Let it go” I became stuck. Thinking, how can I put it in such a way that I can understand, and also for you beautiful people reading this post.

Then it came to me as I was sat thinking about this expression. Trees, think about how a tree lets go of its dead leaves.

The leaves serve their purpose to the tree, and when that purpose is done, the tree lets go of any dead leaves.

A tree don’t dwell on letting the leaves go it just happens.

For a long time the expression “Let it go” really used to provoke me, and being completely honest it still does from time to time.

This was because I didn’t know how to and to a certain extent, didn’t know what it meant.

Over some time I have come to understand myself a bit more and being born at the beginning of September, I need step by step vision and guidance for me to understand and achieve what it is I want to accomplish.

It’s a Virgo thing.

Comparing the action of letting go is like the first time I plucked up the courage to let go with both hands while riding my bike.

Dont get me wrong, I get it, the type of letting go in every day to day life can be remarkably challenging.

It can be something excruciating, if its something that we are not ready to do, mainly if our heart and head are on two different levels.

So when we talk about “Letting go” in this instance, it’s about clearing all fear(or learning to manage fear) doubt and worry about particular situations, people or thoughts.

It’s about clearing anything that throws you off track to your happiness, goals and dreams and releasing anything that no longer serves us on our journey of life.

We all have a choice, letting go is a choice.

The sooner we decide that we are no longer going to allow people, situations or thoughts to control how we live, the sooner we take control of how we want to live.

When we let go, this generates a place for fresh energy, removing anything that happened earlier in the day, the day before or even last week.

It helps to open the mind to new opportunities and for new doors to be opened.

To put it more into perspective, letting go is all about what’s going on now and dismissing anything that might happen tomorrow or next week.

It takes a lot more time and energy than just merely saying we have to let it go. Anything worth working for does.

It all starts within ourselves if we want change to happen, to truly change the way we deal with certain situations for a more healthy lifestyle.

Throughout the last few years, I have been reading a lot to do with personal improvement-books on mindset, spirituality, leading from purpose and discovering my core values.

As a result of reading and studying these particular topics I have come up with five practices that have helped me to deal with “Letting go”, and the aim is to provide the same methods for anyone who is looking to do the same.

Please remember, we must respect where we currently are in life, life is a journey, and it may prove to be more difficult for some than it is for others.

Wherever you may be, accepting that it’s okay where you are is where we want to start.

Mindset For Letting Go.

Our mind is the most complicated instrument we possess, if not in the universe. It can either be our best friend or our most destructible enemy.

Making a choice and allowing things to go starts now.

When making a deliberate decision to let past situations, feelings or events go, it can be the best thing that happens, or if we choose not to let them go, it can be the worse thing that can happen.

It creates a cycle of unhealthy thoughts which then leads to harmful feelings, and then the process continues.

The more we put our attention to a situation, the more the mind produces thoughts of negativity and emotions of hate, anger and disappointment and has an overwhelming effect on our mood.

As I mentioned earlier, I, myself, struggle from time to time with dealing with specific situations and feelings that are negative.

Still, it’s essential to have an awareness around your emotions and what your thinking.

The truth is our thoughts do not limit our total value. We do not sum up to what failures we had in past experiences.

We have to realise that because we failed at something early on in life, it doesn’t imply we are a failure. We still have much of what it takes to achieve our dreams, goals and desires.

The more we practice being the watcher of our emotions and thoughts and not connecting our identity, the more we have control over “Letting go”.

Our thoughts come and go, which ones we act upon is up to us.

Letting It All Go.

Be able to show your emotions healthily allows us to have the capacity to prepare things before making the step of letting go.

Going over circumstances that occurred in the past is not always the best thing to do.

We all do it, but having an awareness of what caused us to feel a certain way can give us the power for future events and how we can deal with them as they arise.

Self-reflection reveals so many discoveries about ourselves.

Talking is an excellent way of showing what you feel and think. Talking to a close friend or family member can be healthy.

Although saying this, be careful when approaching close friends or family members when wanting to talk.

I say this because sometimes close friends or family members can be biased when specific topics are at the conversation, resulting in support not totally based on your support needs.

If this happens, try reaching out to people in your area of difficulty, join groups, research online or maybe speaking to a therapist.

Online classes can be an excellent way too. By doing this, it gives us ground to get a non-biased opinion from people who are neutral in your life.

We also have to remember, past feeling of anger, frustration, guilt all reside within us from past events. These feelings accumulate, and overtime show in our everyday lives.

By continuing to keep ourselves attached to these feelings, it makes it more of a challenging journey for letting it go.

Be sure to reach out, when you are faced with challenging times, there is always someone who has/or is going through what we are.

Chances are they have been where you are, and by asking the right questions, real progress can be made.

Allowing The Situation, Allowing It To Go.

Whenever we experience challenging events, the question “Why” always comes into play.

Why did it have to be this way? or, why did she hurt me so terribly? While all along not realising the negative repercussions it has on us later on.

It’s human nature that we believe that we are entitled to answers. We need to process it to get clarity on the matter.

On a personal level, I know that truth can be painful as many of us do.

Wanting closure is something that is needed.

But getting closure can be difficult, certain people will not shoot straight when giving an explanation or even refuse to apologise.

This can be challenging, but we have to expect the reality we live in.

Continuing with life without closure or any genuine answers is complicated, but by doing so, the better because the same amount of time passes whether we choose to accept or decline moving on.

If we choose to entirely accept the challenging events in our lives rather than digging deeper into it by asking questions etc.

Only then we can start to live life without attachment to those negative situations.

Allow those events to come and serve its purpose, and allow the event to move on, have an awareness of not being attached to the negative energy.

Forgiving.

Forgiveness is a massive part of letting go.

Come to terms with accepting a sorry that you will never hear. Doing this takes a lot of energy, determination and patience.

At first, this will appear wrong and confusing as to why we should allow people or situations to get away with the hurt they have inflicted.

But what should also appear that this is life and its just the way it is.

Knowing first hand, I understand how difficult it can be to keep yourself attached to someone or something through anger, bitterness or even hatred.

Meanwhile, the situation has gone and that someone has moved on and forgot about the past event.

And truth be told the only person affected is you.

It’s so vital that we learn to forgive and also learn to forgive ourselves.

Just remember, when we continuously reminisce on past adverse events we are attaching ourselves to that moment in time and to the person there, this is why it’s so important to forgive because we owe it to ourselves to not be attached to these events.

In the here and now this very second is all that we will ever have.

Fixing the past is out of the question, and as for the future, well I say we have some sort of control as to how we approach it.

Making an effort daily to giving ourselves permission opens up new possibilities to new things.

Experience what is happening right before your eyes, take deep note of the journey unfolding right under your feet.

The good the bad or the right and the wrong, They are all lessons.

Hearing the words “you are where you are supposed to be” can hurt it can be a bitter pill to swallow, but on a deeper level, it’s true.

Life is teaching us lessons, although at times we feel as though the world is against us.

We can feel confused, defeated and also angry.

The thing is when these feelings and thoughts of negativity towards a person or situation come up, and we attach those feelings and thoughts to them; it clouds our mind, not being able to see the event for what it is.

Not being able to make the right educated decisions and see opportunity.

The journey of life is a teacher who has many lessons. Sometimes we are required to face hard lessons, other times we can be the teacher.

Learning while passing on our findings for what we have learned.

Enjoy the moment, for this is where real joy can be.

The here and now is what the journey is about, to allow them thoughts to come and go, be the observer but remain here, see the world through your eyes for however this may be for you.

Your environment plays a significant part in how you feel and think, create awareness around of what and who brings low vibes.

Observe yourself and move on, be aware of the event, trying to control how you think and feel. Act rather than react, this can only be done when in the present moment.

Remind yourself often to welcome the here and now, grasp what it has to offer.

Regardless of how many times we trip on this journey of life and letting it go, we will always have the choice to bring ourselves to the present moment.

Negativity cannot survive in the present moment, the ego is stripped of its power over you which in return frees up all that energy that was residing in these events or people, leaving this energy to use to grow and develop.

Trust that this can be for you also, realise your worth, for your loved ones to grow its important that we grow first.

We all have a choice, to keep existing in those past moments,

or can we finally say that today is the day that im taking the first step to implementing practices for letting go of all negativity in my life?

Here at A Course Within we wish your journey to be safe and blessed, thank you.

Originally published at https://acoursewithin.com on October 11, 2020.